Children and Domestic Abuse
How domestic abuse can affect children
How domestic abuse can affect children
We recognise that children and young people are directly impacted by domestic abuse. It’s important that specialist support is available to respond to their experiences.
The Domestic Abuse Act 2021 states: A child is now considered a victim of domestic abuse if they witness, hear, or experience abuse or if they’re related to either the victim or the abuser.
Around 1 in 5 children have been exposed to domestic abuse.
We recognise that domestic abuse can take many forms. It may include, but is not limited to, emotional, financial, physical, psychological, sexual, controlling behaviour, and coercive behaviour. It may be between current or past intimate partners or family members of any gender, sexuality, age, race, ethnicity, religion, or status. And it could be an isolated incident or part of a repeating pattern over many years.
The NSPCC website has more information about the signs of domestic abuse and how it can affect children and young people.
The Barnardo’s website also has helpful information on how children are affected by domestic abuse.
Childline is a free, private and confidential service that you can access online and on the phone. They can provide help and support for people up to their 19th birthday.
Learn more about domestic abuse and where to find help
The following organisations have further information about the effects of domestic abuse. They also provide support services for adults:
IDAS is the largest specialist charity in the north, supporting people affected by domestic abuse and sexual violence:
Women’s Aid is a grassroots federation working together to provide life-saving services in England and build a future where domestic abuse is not tolerated.
The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is a 24-hour free and confidential service providing support and information:
0808 2000 247
“We recognise that reaching out for support for your child is a brave first step and we just want to let you know that you are not alone. We are here to help support you on this journey”
The Haven Team
Talking to your child about domestic abuse
If your child has experienced domestic abuse, it’s important they have space to talk about it with someone they trust. They may not understand what’s happened and may blame you, or themselves.
The following tips can help when talking to them:
• Listen carefully.
• Ask about and acknowledge their feelings.
• Give age-appropriate information.
• Be honest and open.
• Let them know it’s not their fault.
• Let them know you love them, and they’re safe.
• Accept that they may not be ready to talk.
Learn more about our services and how Haven can help, including how to get started with the first step.
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Get support for your child:
We’re here to help. Fill in our online form, email admin@havenorg.uk or call to leave a message on 0114 213 0590.
We’ll call you back within three days to chat about the best way for us to support your child.